Do you know if there's like...an hour, ideally, but a half hour would probably be fine, for me to pull him away from the party? Or like, between the ceremony bit and the party bit? Something like that?
[Also, no wonder Eliot's been so mood-swingy if he's doing most of it himself. Note to self, cuddle him later, hell yeah, emotional intelligence unlocked]
I don't know, specifically, but usually there is a stretch of time after the ceremony for the couple to take photos, sign legal documents if they hadn't already, have the traditional tea ceremony with family.
Is this a surprise? Do you need me to insist on a certain allotment of time?
Okay. How aggressively do you want me to hide that this request is coming from you? Because he's pretty devoted to making sure every moment is perfect, so 'surprise from quentin' will be a pretty easy request but you might as well ask him yourself for that. Me convincing him that we need a half hour but then refusing to tell him what it's about or making up something he'll accept not having control over ... that's not so easy.
I'd prefer if it was a secret but it's not a catastrophe if you have to tell him
Is there any possibility of like "you two should have some time alone before all the chaos of the reception" or that kind of thing, I don't know if he'd go with that immediately but I don't think it would take a ton of pressure either? Maybe suggesting like "Quentin will need a break at that point" or something, does that make sense
I feel like poking him in the protective instincts would help
I found someone who will come to the venue and spend a certain amount of time tattooing me and if it's not finished at the end of that time I can come to his shop and finish it later but I'm gonna pick some designs he has for Eliot to pick from and also pick areas that I'm willing to get it
That's so lovely! It'll be super cute especially if they're matching. Are you going to tell me what the design is that you've picked?
I will advise that maybe it's not a good idea to do it same day, like it'll be sore and chafing and you're already going to be tired and dealing with a lot of things? I really think you should have an actual down time half hour--maybe during which you can talk about designs and finalize the plan, maybe you two could pick out matching designs together?--rather than a stressful and hasty half hour of pain right before going in to a big party with a bunch of your friends for four hours.
Well it's more him picking one for me, from a few choices I'll give him. I'll show it to you when it's done though
[This is less "cute matching couples tattoos" and more "permanent mark of ownership" but he doesn't feel the need to work too hard disabusing Huaisang of the notion.]
And I do have healing spells that are easy and work on a tattoo so it won't be painful after. Just during and like tbh if it's just a quiet room with him and one other person that isn't NOT relaxing
[He doesn't have many tattoos, but he's experienced enough with the sensation to know that, with Eliot holding his hand, it will be just as calming and grounding as an actual quiet time cuddle would be.]
And like, once we're in the room, if we're late to the party then we can be late. The way receptions usually work is people gather and hang out for awhile and then the couple shows up so it's not like the music and food part can't start without us, you know? We won't be holding too much up
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[He's like 90% sure the answer is yes, but it's so beyond his remit, so to speak, that he doesn't count on his own knowledge.]
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Do you know if there's like...an hour, ideally, but a half hour would probably be fine, for me to pull him away from the party? Or like, between the ceremony bit and the party bit? Something like that?
[Also, no wonder Eliot's been so mood-swingy if he's doing most of it himself. Note to self, cuddle him later, hell yeah, emotional intelligence unlocked]
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Is this a surprise? Do you need me to insist on a certain allotment of time?
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Is there any possibility of like "you two should have some time alone before all the chaos of the reception" or that kind of thing, I don't know if he'd go with that immediately but I don't think it would take a ton of pressure either? Maybe suggesting like "Quentin will need a break at that point" or something, does that make sense
I feel like poking him in the protective instincts would help
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Do you want to know what the surprise is? You might or might not see it at the reception
Also it's ridiculously sappy
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I found someone who will come to the venue and spend a certain amount of time tattooing me and if it's not finished at the end of that time I can come to his shop and finish it later but I'm gonna pick some designs he has for Eliot to pick from and also pick areas that I'm willing to get it
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I will advise that maybe it's not a good idea to do it same day, like it'll be sore and chafing and you're already going to be tired and dealing with a lot of things? I really think you should have an actual down time half hour--maybe during which you can talk about designs and finalize the plan, maybe you two could pick out matching designs together?--rather than a stressful and hasty half hour of pain right before going in to a big party with a bunch of your friends for four hours.
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[This is less "cute matching couples tattoos" and more "permanent mark of ownership" but he doesn't feel the need to work too hard disabusing Huaisang of the notion.]
And I do have healing spells that are easy and work on a tattoo so it won't be painful after. Just during and like tbh if it's just a quiet room with him and one other person that isn't NOT relaxing
[He doesn't have many tattoos, but he's experienced enough with the sensation to know that, with Eliot holding his hand, it will be just as calming and grounding as an actual quiet time cuddle would be.]
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That'll be very sweet!
I'll take care of making sure you have at least half an hour.
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And like, once we're in the room, if we're late to the party then we can be late. The way receptions usually work is people gather and hang out for awhile and then the couple shows up so it's not like the music and food part can't start without us, you know? We won't be holding too much up
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